OUR-Operation Underground Railroad

I think more folks need to know about this.  I am sharing it…will you?

 

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DIY: Phantom of the Opera Themed Tea Party

In April, I was pretty happy to participate in another Tea Party!  This time our theme was “The Phantom’s Masquerade”.  I think our table turned out well.

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Here is what we used:

Fine China

Crystal Goblets

Crystal Pitcher

Real Silver Utensils

Real Silver Candelabra

Cloth Napkins

2 Black Satin Table Cloths

 

Masks (purchased at Hobby Lobby)

Long Stem Red Roses

Lots of Gloves

Vintage Inspired Stationary from www.vectoriadesigns.com

Strings of fake Pearls

Opera Glasses

Old Fashioned Opera Purses

and A Playbill from “Phantom of the Opera” circa 1996.

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The only things purchased here were the black tablecloths, the roses, the jellybeans, the masks, the vintage designs and the strings of pearls.  The rest either I owned or borrowed.  See how much fun this can be?  I loved it even though I was at work that morning from 5:30 am to 9:00 am, but so is the life of an On-Air personality.  Hope you enjoy this!

 

Border Patrol Union says Pay Reform is key – Imperial Valley Press Online: Local News

Reblogging this from Imperial Valley News Press:

Border Patrol union says pay reform is key – Imperial Valley Press Online: Local News.

My family has officially lost 25% of our salary.  And while I understand that has never been a guarantee (though he has had it for the last 19 years)…my husband’s job requires call out time.  How is he supposed to go on call outs if he cannot claim AUO?  The whole system is jacked up right.

Life in Seconds

Music Energy (+clipping path, XXL)
Debunking the Myths about Radio DJs by http://www.radiofacts.com

 

So, I have been back in radio for almost a year now.  And I can honestly say…I love it.  I love living by seconds!  Putting on a great show!  Listening to music for three hours and talking!  I mean…what’s not to love, right?

I love it so much that I often fantasize about sending my kids back to school just so that I can have a “bigger” position at the station I work at and make it more fulfilling for me.  It’s a totally selfish reason…and it’s rather ugly, but there you have it.

So what happens when your needs are being met by God but your wants are not?

You wait.  You wait patiently/impatiently for Him to tell you different…but you wait.  You wait in thanksgiving and expectation.

 

See…the reason I went back into radio is rather funny…and it was a God “thing”, I can see that now.  Last year around this time, we were looking at a HUGE pay cut through my husband’s job, our main source of income.  My husband is a good man and created a studio environment for me that I could work out of, but he’s so good…and he knows me so well…that he didn’t push me into it.  Like a lot of people I am sure, I am terrified of failure.  Who wants to fail, right?  I mean, I have failed at so many things…but something that I totally love, was I willing to put myself out there for that?  He knew I wasn’t.  He didn’t push.  He just did…and then had me look at the results.  How can this change or what would you do, he would ask.  And so it began.  And God knew it was the right way to approach me.  And we have been totally successful at it!  Praise the Lord!

So…the threat of losing pay passed and I got a phone call and I have been back working at a radio station ever since.  And I love what I do.  I just wish sometimes there was more of it.  I guess that is the way it goes.

I await my turn.  I am being a good and faithful servant.  I hope my complaining about it doesn’t harm things in the long run.  But I am sure, you gentle reader, will know what I am talking about.  This is our season of obedience.

We were made for more and I am thankful for that.

An Interesting Word

We have been struggling with our 2nd daughter for some time.  Maybe struggling is not the right word.  Maybe I am using the wrong word to describe our often…difficult…relationship.

strug·gle/ˈstrəgəl/verb

gerund or present participle: struggling

1) make forceful or violent efforts to get free of restraint or constriction
2) strive to achieve or attain something in the face of difficulty or resistance
3) have difficulty handling or coping with
4) engage in conflict
5) make one’s way with difficulty
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Nope.  We have definitely been struggling with her.  We just cannot seem to understand her; nor she us.  She fights everything we try to do.  If we are ‘up her butt like a ham sandwich’ (good imagery there right?)…or we are giving her space…it never seems to be the ‘right’ thing.
And it breaks my heart.  Because I want for my child to be happy.  I understand she is going through a lot of changes right now.  We are homeschooling for the first time.  Her best friend left this past summer.  (Mine too!)  She is going through hormonal changes.  And now…we have discovered an unsettling trend.  She seems (and I am not a clinician, but all signs point to this) to have a slight eating disorder.  I mean, it either is or isn’t…close enough only counts in horseshoes and hand grenades.

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I found this online and thought it was brilliant!

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This really helped us put things in perspective with regard to her and we trying to make it work.  She is not exactly a complete introvert, but there are a lot of similarities for her and it was a good talking point with her.  I showed her this chart and asked her if she thought that any of these applied to her and she nodded her head and said yes.  Okay.  We can and will work with this.

ID-10016888Now before you think I have left the eating disorder issue, I have not.  It’s just one more cog in the wheel of how this child ticks.

Through some research and observing her behaviors, my hubby and I think she has what is known as ‘Avoidance/Restrictive Eating Disorder’.  (The link it to a site we stumbled upon about Restrictive Eating Disorder)  She has been limiting things she eats and then avoids situations where she has to eat at all, particularly at a family friends house.  This has come about in the last month or so.  She has been cranky.  Lacks focus.  She has gotten skinnier than she already is.  When I hug her, I can feel her rib cage and her spine.  Mind you, she has always been on the thin side…so this is not normal.  Dark circles under the eyes.  Just a whole lot of things, that when taken separately might not mean anything, but when put all together…they produce a bigger picture that is not healthy.

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I know, I have been there.  Oh believe, me…I have been there.

I was a figure skater in my tween/teen years and I know about restrictive eating disorders, but because I ate, I didn’t think I had an issue.  Boy, was I wrong!  Counting every calorie, limiting my intake and avoiding certain foods are all part of this cycle…but because I still ate food…I thought there was nothing wrong with me.  I exercised, ran, swam…did aerobics and skated on top of that!  All while probably only eating enough calories to get me by…but because (in my mind) I was still eating meals, there was nothing wrong.  I didn’t binge.  I didn’t purge.  I didn’t even starve myself.  But if a package said, 5 crackers was 120 calories, I would only eat 5 crackers.  It wasn’t until I was older and had my 1st child that I realized the problem I truly had with food.  And I still struggle with my weight.  (There’s that word again!)

The point is:  We are watching, monitoring and hopefully, making the best choices when it comes to her well-being.  We don’t want her to get to a breaking point.  We don’t want to get to a breaking point either.  We are trying to teach all our children that food is good for you.  That everything needs to be done in moderation.  Sigh.  Parenting is hard.

Today was a better day.  We monitored what she ate, but didn’t do it in a way that called attention to her.  Made sure she ate foods that were rich in protein and not just junk.  She ate a healthy lunch.  So it’s going to take a while, but as with everything else, I know it will be worth it.  And a light…a glimmer of good…when we prayed over our food today for lunch, she actually grabbed my hand and joined in!  Lately, she has also been rejecting prayer too.  Sigh.  I know.  Lots going on with this one.  BUT…we are prayerful and thankful that we have our Lord to guide us through this.

Struggling with it All…

ID-100904As a mother who homeschool’s and works, I often find it hard to find time to even breathe.

It is a tricky balancing act…one in which, inevitably, someone is not satisfied.  Someone is mad and upset.  Someone is usually crying.  That someone is usually me.

I read something freeing the other day:  “We homeschool not to teach like a school at home but to make our children love learning, 7 days a week at all hours.  We teach them control, confidence and character.  Our home is a classroom filled with wonder and is always on.”  (Sorry for not quoting you properly…or citing where I read it, because I honestly cannot remember)

I loved that.  It freed up some of what I have been thinking about, some of the guilt, like how will my kids measure up?  Measure up to who though?  My own pre- conceived notions of what they should be learning and what I think they would be learning at school.

I am learning too.  I have one daughter who is an extrovert with some introvert tendencies.  I have another who is a total introvert with a few extrovert tendencies.  Learning how to be with both of them as an extrovert (I mean, dude…I am the poster child for extrovert) has been a challenge.  I am your typical Type-A personality.  See something, make a plan, go after it…get it done.  My daughters’ ambling and plodding drives me slightly insane.

My son is learning, unfortunately, from his sister’s that there are some things just not worth his time…or so he thinks.  I am unlearning (is this a word?) this behavior and making him face up to his mistakes.  He has learned to make some great excuses.  Today though, after lunch he told me he was going to get back to work and not make excuses for not doing his work.  He wanted to be done.

We have instituted a schedule now.  My girls are up at 7am.  My boy at 8.  They have classes they have to take and an format to follow.  I am hopeful that this will help my introvert child have more structure which I believe she needs.  My extrovert child likes to watch TV.  There, enough said about that issue. 🙂

I am working two part time jobs.  And not because I have to…or maybe because I do but not for monetary reasons.  I love them both for different reasons.  One because it gets me back into the profession I love and the other because it get’s my creative juices going.

My husband and I are working more as a unit and are prayerful, watchful and eager to see where the Lord leads us.  Some days it feels as if I am in a swampy land with lots of lichen and cobwebs…and other days I see us on a plateau and there’s nothing but soft, even ground to be covered.  Going to the horizon.  Those days are sometimes few and far between…but they make me appreciate them all the more.  I am more aware, more awake than ever that what we are doing is for His Glory and not ours.  It is humbling and sometimes a heavy burden…because I want to be weak.  I want to be sinful and I want to let my flesh have it’s way.  But I resist…I resist for the greater good.  I resist because my children are watching.  Oh my Word are they watching.  And we are unlearning behaviors, together.

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